Shiddukhin
The shiddukhin period is the first step in the marriage process and refers to the arrangements preliminary to the legal betrothal. In biblical times, the important first step was the "arrangement." It was common in ancient tradition for the father of the groom to select a bride for his son.

Mat 22:2  The kingdom of heaven is like unto a certain king, which made a marriage for his son, 
This  example of the shiddukhin being initiated for the son came though Moshe Although this was considered the responsibility of the father, many times it was not practical. Therefore, the father could delegate this responsibility by designating a representative. In this case,YAHWEH sent his servant on a journey to acquire a bride for his son.Throughout the generations, this person was known as the shadkhan ("marriage broker" or "matchmaker").
Exo 3:2  The angel of YAHWEH appeared to him in a flame of fire out of the midst of a bush. He looked, and behold, the bush burned with fire, and the bush was not consumed. 
The next step of the shiddukhin, which is called the ketubah ("written"). The ketubah includes the provisions and conditions proposed for the marriage or, more correctly, the marriage contract. In this Hebrew document, the groom promises to support his wife-to-be 

Exo 19:5  Now therefore, if you will indeed obey my voice, and keep my covenant, then you shall be my own possession from among all peoples; for all the earth is mine; 

Despite the fact that this was an arranged marriage, it seems clear that the consent of the bride was an important contingency clause. 

Exo 19:8  All the people answered together, and said, "All that  Yahweh has spoken we will do." Moshe reported the words of the people to YAHWEH

To prepare for the betrothal ceremony, it was common for the bride and groom to separately take a ritual immersion in water (mikveh). This ritual immersion in water (mikveh) was always symbolic of a spiritual cleansing.

1Co 10:1  Now I would not have you ignorant, brothers, that our fathers were all under the cloud, and all passed through the sea; 
1Co 10:2  and were all immersed into Moshe in the cloud and in the sea; 

Eyrusin (Betrothal)
After the mikveh, the couple appeared under the huppah ("canopy") in a public ceremony to express their intention of becoming betrothed, or engaged.
While eyrusin means "betrothal," a secondary word often associated with this period is kiddushin ("sanctification" or "set-apart"). This secondary term more specifically describes what the betrothal, or engagement period is all about; that is, setting oneself aside for another for the covenant of marriage. 

Exo 19:6  and you shall be to me a kingdom of Kohanim, and a Kadesh nation.' These are the words which you shall speak to the children of Yisra'el." 
Exo 19:8  All the people answered together, and said, "All that  Yahweh has spoken we will do." Moshe reported the words of the people to YAHWEH

Kiddushin also refers to the actual eyrusin ceremony, which takes place under a huppah.From ancient times, the wedding canopy has been a symbol of a new household being planned 

Exo 13:21 YAHWEH went before them by day in a pillar of cloud, to lead them on their way, and by night in a pillar of fire, to give them light, that they might go by day and by night: 

After this huppah ceremony, the couple was considered to be fully entered into the agreement of eurusin.The eurusin was so binding that the couple would actually need a religious divorcecalled a GET in order to annul the contract. The option of a get was available only to the husband, as the wife had no say in any divorce proceeding.

Deu 24:1  When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give [it] in her hand, and send her out of his house. 
Deu 24:2  And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's [wife]. 

Jer 2:20  For of old time I have broken your yoke, and burst your bonds; and you said, I will not serve; for on every high hill and under every green tree you did bow yourself, playing the prostitute. 
Jer 3:8  I saw, when, for this very cause that backsliding Yisra'el had committed adultery, I had put her away and given her a bill of divorce, yet treacherous Yehudah, her sister, didn't fear; but she also went and played the prostitute. 

Hos 1:9  He said, "Call his name Lo-Ammi; for you are not my people, and I will not be yours. 

Deu 24:3  If the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorce, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, who took her to be his wife; 

Deu 24:4  Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that [is] abomination before YAHWEH: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which YAHWEH thy God giveth thee [for] an inheritance.

                  THE NEW PROMISE
Jer 31:31  Behold, the days come, YAHWEH, that I will make a new covenant with the house of Yisra'el, and with the house of Yehudah: 
Jer 31:32  not according to the covenant that I made with their fathers in the day that I took them by the hand to bring them out of the land of Egypt; which my covenant they broke, although I was a husband to them, says YAHWEH. 
Jer 31:33  But this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Yisra'el after those days, says YAHWEH: I will put my law in their inward parts, and in their heart will I write it; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people:__________________________________
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It was common in ancient tradition for the father of the groom to select a bride for his son, sometimes while he was still an infant.

YAHWEH this time announces the the best man

 Luk 1:17  He will go before him in the spirit and power of Eliyahu, 'to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children,' and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just; to make ready a people prepared for the YAHSHUA
            THE BRIDE IS PREPARED
Mat 3:1  In those days, Yochanan the immerser came, preaching in the wilderness of Yehudah, saying, 
Mat 3:2  "Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!" 
Mat 3:5  Then people from Yerushalayim, all of Yehudah, and all the region around the Yarden went out to him. 
Mat 3:6  They were immersed by him in the Yarden, confessing their sins. 
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Mat 15:24  But he answered, "I wasn't sent to anyone but the lost sheep of the house of Yisra'el." 
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Luk 22:15  He said to them, "I have earnestly desired to eat this Pesach with you before I suffer, 
Luk 22:16  for I tell you, I will no longer by any means eat of it until it is fulfilled in the Kingdom of God." 
Luk 22:17  He received a cup, and when he had given thanks, he said, "Take this, and share it among yourselves, 
Luk 22:18  for I tell you, I will not drink at all again from the fruit of the vine, until the Kingdom of God comes." 
Luk 22:19  He took bread, and when he had given thanks, he broke it, and gave to them, saying, "This is my body which is given for you. Do this in memory of me." 
Luk 22:20  Likewise, he took the cup after supper, saying, "This cup is the new covenant in my blood, which is poured out for you
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                      Condition for new marriage

Deu 24:3  If the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorce,or if the latter husband die, who took her to be his wife; 

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                        Condition met

Mat 27:50  Yeshua cried again with a loud voice, and yielded up his spirit. 
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       One reason for baptizism and why we are new creatures

Rom 6:3 Don't you know that all we who were immersed into Messiah Yeshua were immersed into his death? 
Rom 6:4  We were buried therefore with him through immersion to death, that just like Messiah was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, so we also might walk in newness of life.
               
             Paul goes on to explain the whys and what for's
Rom 7:2  For the woman that has a husband is bound by law to the husband while he lives, but if the husband dies, she is discharged from the law of the husband. 
Rom 7:3  So then if, while the husband lives, she is joined to another man, she would be called an adulteress. But if the husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is no adulteress, though she is joined to another man. 
Rom 7:4  Therefore, my brothers, you also were made dead to the law through the body of Messiah, that you would be joined to another, to him who was raised from the dead, that we might bring forth fruit to God. 
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                         Groom Prepares for future life

Since believers in Yahshua have consented to the conditions of the eyrusin, they enter into the betrothal period. This is the period of time (one year) between the first cup of the eyrusin ceremony and the full marriage as symbolized in the second cup.There is too much that still needs to be done. The groom has his own responsibilities, the most pressing one being the preparing of their future home. In the ancient Middle East, this was most likely to take the form of adding a room to the family's existing home.The preparation of a future home fits with the teaching of Yahshua. The Messiah was trying to comfort his disciples concerning his impending death and departure from the earth. As troubling as this was to those followers, there was great hope expressed when Yahshua said:

Joh 14:1  "Don't let your heart be troubled. Believe in God. Believe also in me. 
Joh 14:2  In my Father's house are many homes. If it weren't so, I would have told you. I am going to prepare a place for you. 
Joh 14:3  If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and will receive you to myself; that where I am, you may be there also. 
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Peter Explains the preisthood being Mecheizadek priesthood being restored to the whole kingdom 
1Pe 2:9  But you are a chosen race, a Royal Kohanim, a Kodesh nation, a people YAHWEH's own possession, that you may proclaim the excellence of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light: 
Exo 19:6  and you shall be to me a kingdom of Kohanim, and a Kadesh nation.' These are the words which you shall speak to the children of Yisra'el." 
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 Hosea's 1:9

1Pe 2:10  who in time past were no people, but now are God's people, who had not obtained mercy, but now have obtained mercy. 
Hos 1:6  She conceived again, and bore a daughter. Then he said to him, "Call her name Lo-Ruhamah; for I will no longer have mercy on the house of Yisra'el, that I should in any way pardon them. 

Hos 1:9  He said, "Call his name Lo-Ammi; for you are not my people, and I will not be yours. 

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At this point we see MESSIAH YAHSHUA has RE-BETROTHED US!

2Co 11:2  For I am jealous over you with Kodesh jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Moshiach. 
Here Rabbi SHA'UL tells us as our teacher of TORAH that it keeps us PURE untill the comming of the GROOM!
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   Dress rehersals before the comming of the groom

Col 2:16  Let no man therefore judge you in meat, or in drink, or in respect of an holyday, or of the new moon, or of the sabbath [days]: 
Col 2:17  Which are a shadow of things to come; but the body [is] of Christ. 
____________________________________________________________________Mission (Marriage)
The culminating step in the process of the Jewish wedding ceremony is known as nissuin. This is based on the Hebrew verb nasa, which literally means "to carry." Nissuin was quite a graphic description, as the bride would be waiting for the groom to carry her away to their new home.There was great anticipation as the bride waited for the arrival of her betrothed one.This was to be expected, especially when taking into consideration an element unique to the biblical Jewish wedding; that is, the time of the groom's arrival (and hence the whole wedding party) was to be a surprise.The bride and her bridal party would therefore be anxiously watching and waiting for the exact moment. Even in the late evening, the bridal party was to keep their oil lamps burning just in case the wedding was to begin. 

Mat 25:1  "Then the Kingdom of Heaven will be like ten virgins, who took their lamps, and went out to meet the bridegroom. 
Mat 25:2  Five of them were foolish, and five were wise. 
Mat 25:3  Those who were foolish, when they took their lamps, took no oil with them, 
Mat 25:4  but the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps. 
Mat 25:5  Now while the bridegroom delayed, they all slumbered and slept. 
Mat 25:6  But at midnight there was a cry, 'Behold! The bridegroom is coming! Come out to meet him!'
Mat 25:7  Then all those virgins arose, and trimmed their lamps. 
Mat 25:8  The foolish said to the wise, 'Give us  some of your oil, for our lamps are going out.' 
Mat 25:9  But the wise answered, saying, 'What if there isn't enough for us and you? You go rather to those who sell, and buy for yourselves.' 
Mat 25:10  While they went away to buy, the bridegroom came, and those who were ready went in with him to the marriage feast, and the door was shut. 
Mat 25:11  Afterward the other virgins also came, saying, 'Lord, Lord, open to us.' 
Mat 25:12  But he answered, 'Most certainly I tell you, I don't know you.' 
Mat 25:13  Watch therefore, for you don't know the day nor the hour in which the Son of Man is coming. 

One custom was for a member of the groom's party to lead the way from the groom's house to the home of the bride, and to shout "Behold, the bridegroom comes!" This would be followed by the sound of the shofar (ram's horn), which was used to proclaim Jewish holy days and special events.

Mal 4:5  Behold, I will send you Eliyahu the prophet before the great and terrible day of YAHWEH comes. 

At the sound of the shofar, the groom would lead a wedding procession through the streets of the village to the house of the bride. The groomsmen would then carry (nissuin) the bride back to the groom's house where a huppah ("canopy") was once again set up. 

1Th 4:16  For the Lord himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the chief angel, and with God's shofar. The dead in Messiah will rise first, 
1Th 4:17  then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air. So we will be with the Lord forever.
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The couple would once again, as they did one year previous, say a blessing over a cup of wine (a symbol of joy). This cup was clearly distinguished from the previous cup, as is reflected in the traditional sheva b'rakhot ("seven blessings") that accompany it. This second stage of the huppah ceremony, as found in the nissuin custom, serves as the finalization of the earlier promises and vows. 

Luk 22:16  for I tell you, I will no longer by any means eat of it until it is fulfilled in the Kingdom of God." 
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For the first time, the couple was free to consummate their marriage and live together as husband and wife The pinnacle of this joyful celebration was the marriage supper. This was more than just a sit-down dinner for all the guests, but included seven full days of food, music, dance and celebration.After all the wonderful festivities, the new husband was free to bring his wife to their new home and to live together within the full covenant of marriage.
Rev 19:7  Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready. 
Rev 19:8  And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints. 
Rev 19:9  And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed [are] they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God.
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After all the wonderful festivities, the new husband was free to bring his wife to their new home and to live together within the full covenant of marriage

Rev 21:1  I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven and the first earth have passed away, and the sea is no more. 
Rev 21:2  I saw the holy city, New Yerushalayim, coming down out of heaven from YAHUAH, made ready like a bride adorned for her husband. 
Rev 21:3  I heard a loud voice out of heaven saying, "Behold,the Tabernacle of ELOHIM is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they will be his people, and ELOHIM himself will be with them as their ELOHIM.

                                                                      AMEIN & AMEIN